"Did you know I can pick you up by your ears!? Just hold on to my arms and I'll show you!"
I bent down to perform this superhuman feat for my friends' young daughter, and she clasped on to my wrists. In a moment that felt completely outside of myself, it hit me. I didn't know what to do with it at the time, so I just continued on being "Silly Mr. Shane" as I hoisted her up into the air, then did the same with her younger brother. They continued to take turns and then I became a jungle gym. Up they went into the air, down they hung like monkeys. I suggested their hair would make a great mop, and maybe the bathroom floor needed cleaning...
After traveling down to Houston for a close friend's wedding, I made the short hop to visit another. He and his wife saved me from making a long New Year's Eve drive back to DFW, and gave me a much needed bed to sleep in. The following morning, I was treated to fun time with them both and the three lovely children that make up their family. I found myself making silly jokes, playing tricks, and spinning around like a dog chasing its tale for the sake of innocent laughter and a smile. Before long I had to hit the road to get back home, but found myself genuinely happy with the fun I'd had that morning.
Last night as I lay in bed processing the events of the day, I allowed myself to return to that moment that caught me off guard earlier. It was so sudden. The moment she clasped my wrists, I was transported back to one of the many times I locked eyes with my dad, grabbed his arms as he grabbed my ears, and then lifted away from the ground. Somehow in that moment, I became him and was able to enjoy the first happy memory I've been able to remember in a long time, being both in the present, the product of his parenting, and in the past, a son with his father again.
I thought back to the rest of the time I spent with their kids that morning-- the jokes, the silly behavior, the playful roughhousing-- that was all my dad. He was always amazing with little kids. A perennial goofball. No joke was too silly, no trick went unplayed, and there was always a good reason to wrestle or climb on his big frame.
Last night I was able to look back at the day with pride. I felt so akin to my dad, that I could almost hear his laughter and feel a pat on the back. Without any real intention, I had done as he would do. I carry with me many more of his lessons and personality than I had realized, and that's just fine with me.
Wonderful tribute and memories carried to the next generation through your beloved father! Glad you got to experience his presence in your life during those moments! ❤❤
ReplyDeleteHappy New Year Hugs to you! FL AuntieE